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Self Esteem, a Key to Mental Health

October 28th, 2008

The issue of self esteem is one of the most critical aspects of the human personality. According to Nathaniel Branden, Ph.D., noted author and expert on the subject,” Positive self-esteem is the immune system of the spirit, helping an individual face life’s problems and bounce back from adversity.”
I have found in my practice that the lack of self esteem is the most common factor present in those suffering from long term emotional problems. Recognizing the

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Perspective

July 23rd, 2008

I would like to share an event in my life that bought me perspective and clarity on an important issue in my life. Over the last several years, various infirmities of my increasing age have begun to creep into my body. Bad knees, low back pain, a shoulder that does not work, and many more very minor ailments too numerous to mention. But I do have one great tool I’ve always used to distract myself: and that is “self

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The Power Of Intention

July 23rd, 2008

I wonder how many of us comprehend the power of the words, “I can’t”. I believe that these words or thoughts may have doomed endless projects or dreams that might have otherwise been realized.
The opposite and much more effective approach, is the power of the words “I shall”, “I will” or “I can”, which are so much more valuable in a positive direction and is what here I refer to as “The Power of Intention”.
Much has

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“Stuffing It” (Or Just Say NO)

April 13th, 2008

One evening I was driving with a friend of mine, when my friend made a fairly innocuous remark, which under normal circumstances shouldn’t have bothered me in the least. Instead, I flew into a rage, and jammed my hand through the windshield of my car. Total cost of the event was $400 for the windshield, and years of therapy costing several thousand dollars.
In my particular case, this “disorder” might be termed the “stuff it now, and

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The Big T in Marriage (And Relationships)

March 13th, 2008

There is an old song that many may remember called, “Love and Marriage”. There is an equally important song that might be written called, “ Trust and Marriage”.
Trust is one of the most fundamental requirements in successful and lasting human relationships. It is closely connected to the need to feel secure. And this most basic of human drives may at times manifest itself in the institution of marriage or long term committed relationships. One might say that

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Listen To Your Heart

March 13th, 2008

The western culture in which we live teaches to us to use logic and reason as the most important factors in determining how we run our lives. But I have found that there is another equally or perhaps more important source of information and that is what I call “our heart”. This is often known by other names such as “gut feeling”, or “intuitive sense”. I have often learned in retrospect, that these feelings are more often valid, than

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The Time Machine

March 13th, 2008

How often in our lives have we wished for a “magical time machine” that would allow us to go back and change our past. At first glance it sounds like an incredible idea. We could clean up all of our “stuff” and literally come up “clean as a whistle” in the present. For example we might have selected wealthy parents, or perhaps a wealthy spouse or numerous other “might haves”.
However, and there is a however. We often tend to focus

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Like Mother, Like Son

February 4th, 2008

When my daughter, Julie (age 6) came home from school one day she asked me the following question: “Daddy, why do the other children talk in Spanish, but they laugh and cry in English?”
Such brilliance from an innocent, unaffected child.
And then Julie’s son Benjamin (at age 12, and 37 years later) was asked at school to write a paragraph about “A Vicious Animal”. And this what he wrote:
A Vicious Animal
By Ben Ghitterman
This animal neither creeps nor crawls, nor

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Feelings are!

February 4th, 2008

We have many options in our lives: where we live, our vocation and education, our spouse, our passions, and the list is endless. One arena where the options are not so obvious is how does one feel. Feelings whether joyful, sad, or in between, usually occur “without our permission” When you are feeling up and positive all is well and good and when people say, “How Are you?” And you reply with a very upbeat answer and everyone is

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The “Fitted Sheet” And Our Need To Feel Secure

August 13th, 2007

A “fitted sheet” is a special bed sheet that fits over a mattress in such a fashion that the four corners of the sheet fit over and around the four corners of the mattress. Most of us at some time or other have used a fitted sheet. When it is new, it always fits perfectly. Then we wash it, it shrinks, and it will no longer cover all four corners unless we lift up the fourth corner or in some

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